This December will be quite pack indeed. For the first time. Mostly I spend my last few years of year end holidays sitting on my butt in front of the computer screen playing games or watching
anime. Yes I am a lifeless loser. Though frequently I would go out to KL and walk around for fun when boredom has totally reach its peak.
Things to do [Rephrased]
LOTS of things to do :
- Hunt for colleges that have March intake. (really thinking of going to HELP)
- Organize Christmas party.
- Re-memorise and re-act an old skit for Christmas Eve.
- Get driving license.
- Read Twilight. (Bue! I need the books!)
- Solve my first Rubik's cube (Ruby) without any form of formula.
- Attend Committee retreat.
- Attend Christmas Program at church.
- Go for a Christmas Carols at KL PAC,
- Attend Youth Camp.
- Catch up on movies. (I still haven't watch Wall-E)
- Get Brisingr. When it is cheap.
And the list will be continuously added sooner or later. That I can assure you.
Anyway a word from the wise foolish (where fools will listen):
Sometimes, you can't expect parents to understand a teenager.
Yes it sounds very insulting but most of the time, the truth hurts. Why I said this? Because most (I'm not saying all but most =D) parents have already forgotten what it means to be young and foolish. Or also because they want the teenagers to not make mistakes in life. But then again mistakes are the things that molds and builds character.
Most of the time, firsthand learning is better than secondhand learning and that we should all experience the mistakes/lesson ourself than never experience them at all.
It is not totally the parents fault at not understanding actually, it is because the parents cares for their child. As a child, parents made decisions about everything from the bread the child eats in the morning to the type of toothpaste they use before going to bed. And it's a good thing because children need this kind of protection and guidance, because they aren't mature enough to take care of themselves or make careful decisions on their own.
But eventually, the child grows up and become teenagers. And part of being a teenager is developing their own identity : one that is separate from the identities of their parents. Identity as in creating their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life. This is what prepares them for adulthood.
Unfortunately, parents grew too comfortable of being "in control" and this dull their senses to their teenager's preference or feelings. They would always want to be in charge of everything concerning their child. So when the child hits puberty, most parents will have a hard time adjusting to the fact of letting go of this control. As a result, fights normally breaks out because of the reluctance of letting the teenager being his/herself.
So if you're a parent and looking for a solution for resolving fights with their teenagers, here's a tip: Let them make their own choices (most of the time) and mistakes, just warned them beforehand. Adjust to the fact that you are not always in control for the outcome of the child. God is.
I'm not saying parents are the cause of all fights. Its just that there is a lack of mutual respect and understanding. Like parents don't care what the teenagers do as long as they do it their way, or teenagers don't care what their parents say because of , "Hey! What do they know? " attitude.
Don't mind me, I am making no sense for I've just gone over the edge of sanity.
Last note:
All the best to Jun Yu and the rest who would be sitting for Accounts paper tomorrow!
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